#MySundayPhoto 13/05/18


Hi everyone!

As you know from our post last Sunday, this week we have decided to ask our readers to submit their own photos from the bank holiday weekend! We had a load of lovely entries on our Facebook page, and it was pretty tough to choose just one photo to be our #MySundayPhoto this weekend!


We have chosen this one by Emma!

This picture is adorable for many reasons, but personally I love the very serious expression on the little man’s face and the fun being had with everyone else in the picture! This shows that digging up sand and building sand castles are very serious business indeed!
Thank you Emma, great photo and it looks like you had a fab time at the beach!

Taking a toddler to SeaLife

Hi all!

Sometimes it’s nice to share photos of things we’ve been up to recently, and Olivia and I have been up to all sorts of antics this week!

Yesterday we had a very busy but amazing day, and I’m really starting to feel like I’m on top of the world now and actually in control. We’ve gotten into a lovely routine together, and although we both miss Jamie very much, we’re managing okay while he’s serving abroad.

So, what did we get up to yesterday?

We took a day trip to the SeaLife Aquarium in London! We managed a (mostly) successful train journey with only one tantrum – I call that a success – and for the majority of the time walking around the aquarium, Olivia was so happy and excited! There were a few screaming fits on the floor, but minimal and I could tell that she was getting quite tired.

I cannot even describe how amazed she was by the whole aquarium, but this photo does it some justice:

Seeing her so happy made the whole day worthwhile, and, of course, by the end of walking all around the aquarium she was so exhausted that I managed a hassle-free trip to uni to collect my White Book! I may have also enrolled her on the BPTC while I was there… She was asleep after all, so she couldn’t stop me!
The only stressful part of the day was attempting to keep hold of Olivia at the same time as pushing an empty buggy around! SeaLife doesn’t have a buggy park (which I was unaware of), and that meant it was a tad tricky trying to lug around a buggy, a bag and a baby all by myself! We will definitely have to go again when Jamie gets back from Afghanistan with the whole family!

Have you been to SeaLife? What have you been up to this weekend? We’d love to know so leave us a comment or submit your pics to us via email and we will share them on our instagram page!

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Competitive parenting! Nobody wins…

Have you ever had a moment where you looked at your baby, or your way of parenting, and just felt like your baby wasn’t smart enough or you were inadequate? We’ve all been there.

Aimee recently posted about social media being one of the ways in which we can feel so useless, and I have to agree! On social media, you only see the perfect side of parenting. You only see the milestones and the happiness, you don’t see the flukes, one-offs and huge amount of tears that are inevitable. This journey is incredibly emotional. Everyone cries at some point, you just don’t see it.

Nevertheless there’s this competitive side to parenting now – whose baby starts speaking/crawling/walking the quickest? Who are the best mum and dad? Whose house looks cleanest and tidiest in the background of all of those beautiful baby pics? Definitely not mine, I promise!

A picture of my baby girl, complete with laundry drying in the background

And it’s not just parents who are guilty of doing this – I once went to a baby group that I had been to a few weeks on the trot, but this time there were two NHS trainee Health Visitors observing the group. My daughter has always been raring to go and she was pretty quick to do everything, but I would never have dreamt of saying what one of those ladies said next:

“Does it make you worry when you see babies the same age as yours doing so much more?”

Yep, I’m serious. She said that to the woman sitting next to me.

If that had been me, I would have crumbled. A medical professional passing comment like that? They should know better, and thankfully, the mum next to me had the perfect answer. She said “No, all babies develop differently and take different amounts of time to do things”.

I wanted to give her a high five, I felt so pleased that she’d shut down that conversation and wouldn’t pay any attention to that competitive style of parenting. And that advice is so true! Although Olivia was always quick at getting on her feet and charging about, it took her a little while to start saying words other than mummy and daddy, and in the last few months, I can’t believe how much the little chatterbox’s speech has come on.

I got the idea from Harriet, who keeps a note on her phone of all the words Florence says and what order they came in, to write a letter to Olivia on my personal blog listing all of the words she can say. To my amazement, there are tons! It’s really quite fascinating to see them all written down like that, and if you had any doubts about your baby not progressing as quickly as others, I would urge you to try it.

Try writing down all the things baby can do or say, and when you see it there in black (or whatever other colour pen you use) and white, it will make you realise that they are progressing in their own little way. As the mum at the baby group said; they all take time to do things and they all develop differently.

No two babies are the same, so comparing them and their abilities is bad for everyone. You don’t need to feel insecure and you definitely don’t need to feel like everyone is in competition.

We are all in this parenting malarkey together.

Does social media make it harder to be good mothers?

Since the evolution of Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc., millions of parents have flocked to social media to show their family and friends pictures of their little ones, experiences they’ve had and problems they’ve encountered along the way. This may seem harmless, but picture this…

Mum one- Only posts on social media about the amazing things her child does, pictures of her child being perfectly behaved. Only shares experiences where she felt triumphant as a parent. Lives a seemingly perfect life with her perfect child. Meanwhile, her toddler has stressed her out all day, nothing has been done around her house and once her toddler has gone to bed, she gets to finally sit down to hot food for the first time today.

Mum two- Checks mum one’s social media frequently, amazed at how well she is coping with motherhood. She scrolls through her social media posts in awe, as her toddler pulls out the clothes she has folded three times already and screams at the top of their lungs for juice!

Both mothers are in the same position, yet mum two feels like she is failing. Why isn’t her child well behaved? Why doesn’t she have her life sorted?

The answer?

Because social media is the perfect platform for creating a better version of your reality. We can be anyone we want on social media in the hope that nobody will find out our flaws and mistakes. This is what is making a lot of mothers feel like failures. The constant reminder that the ‘Mum ones’ out there are doing better than we are.

‘Mummy groups’ do not help with this. I don’t know about the rest of you, but seeing photo after photo of kids, my daughter’s age, doing things she isn’t doing yet or seeing people show off how much they have got their kids for birthdays/Christmas, makes me feel inadequate as a parent. Why isn’t my daughter doing that? Must be something I’m doing. Why didn’t I spend that much on her for her birthday? I must be such a bad mother. Right?


Every child is different and every parenting journey is different. You can try to be like all the ‘Mum ones’ in the world, but chances are, it won’t work. You are the best mother you can be to your little one. Your parenting journey is exactly that. YOURS! Don’t let other people influence it or even change it completely.

So does social media make it harder to be good mothers? In some aspects yes. It definitely makes us question some of our abilities and choices, which then leads us to question our parenting in general. But in other aspects, no. Social media is a great place to socialise with other mothers, pick up tips on the harder parts of parenting e.g. breastfeeding, potty training etc. And social media mummies, 80% of the time, will be there to support you when you feel like the worst parent in the world.

So go ahead, scroll through social media, but stick to your choices! After all, mummy knows best!